ah, I missed a few... regarding your counter question, I mainly sculpt in Vox mode, I think my visible poly count is like 3 xxx xxx, 3 million? but I think not on my current Vox tree as I did some body suit sculpting underneath the armour I am currently sculpting... but still not making sense as the reading from the task manager not showing that much of usage, however, I wouldn't be able to see all of the usage of all time, for example, when the sculpting became laggy for a brief second, I wouldn't know if the usage had spiked, so can't be 100% sure...
3dcoat should be using my RTX 4070, as I had the same concern, so I specifically set the software to use the RTX card...
edit: I am using 2023 3dcoat!
hope that answered some of the missing pieces. Thanks again!
Keith